In the modern-day there’s a lot of emphasis on dating particularly through social media and Tinder is amongst a dozen dating apps that look to exploit that. In this post, I am going to explore the impact Tinder has on our self-esteem and overall mental health.
Match Chat Date
‘Match Chat Date’… if only it was that easy. Tinder advertises their dating app as a three-step process which can be quite misleading. There certainly isn’t any process to follow that will guarantee you a date for the simple reason that humans don’t function like that. It’s unnatural to try and force something and a match doesn’t even guarantee you a reply let alone a date.
Right of Left?
Tinder follows a simple procedure—you swipe right if you find someone attractive or left if you do not. There is a limit (unless you purchase premium) as to how many profiles you can swipe right on within a set-time limit. Now for example, let’s say you swipe right on 20 profiles in a day and yet there is not a single match, this can lead one to assume that they haven’t been liked back resulting in lower self-esteem and frustration.
The un-paid tinder subscription permits you with one super-like a day which can be used on a profile you find more attractive than any other. Tinder has introduced a ‘daily hot picks’ section which features the most popular profiles throughout the day. As a male, it can be particularly damaging to self-esteem when there is no recognition after you super liked a profile—hence why I restrain from doing so.
In some cases, a match will unmatch you whether you’ve had a brief conversation or not it can damage self-confidence. Some people use Tinder willy nilly meaning that they swipe right on all profiles to see how many matches they can accumulate—the problem with this is the person on the receiving end may end up with false hope and ultimately a pie in the face.
A study showsthat only around 50% of matches message back which means that a lot of the time your message is either ignored or forgotten about. This can often lead to lower self-esteem and a deep resentment towards one’s personal appearance.
With this in mind, I appreciate that Tinder can provide benefits so I’m not completely against the idea but this post focuses solely on the drawbacks.